September was Mental Health month with a focus on asking people “R U OK”. With that said, this is a reminder that we should be asking the question throughout the year. When was the last time you checked up on a family member, a friend, a neighbour or even someone you’ve noticed not looking too happy?

We are taught to share our kindness, joy, hope, love and peace to help others. What better time than now to support the people around you?

So, how can you support someone who you may be concerned about?

Listen and try not to judge or “fix things” straight away – take time to listen, let them know that you care and that their feelings are important. If someone has been going through a rough time, it can be a big relief to talk about what has been going on. Listening can be helpful, even without taking any actions, it might just be what they need. 

Some people need time or space before they’re willing to accept help. 

Suggest they make an appointment with their doctor or a mental health professional if things don’t begin to improve. You can offer to go with them if they need some extra support.

If they don’t want help and you are still worried, let their family or another trusted adult know. You have to strike the right balance between your friend’s right to privacy and the need to make sure they are safe. If you decide to tell someone else, try and let your friend know first that you are planning on doing this.

Remember there are many organisations who can support your friend or family member through these difficult times – you don’t need to do this alone.

Lifeline – 13 11 14 www.lifeline.org.au/about-lifeline/contact-us

Parents Line – 1300 1300 52 www.parentline.org.au

Kids Helpline – 1800 55 1800 www.kidshelpline.com.au

Mental Health Line - 1800 011 511

headspace - 02 4824 4944 

www.headspace.org.au/headspace-centres/goulburn/